We had our miscarriage follow-up appointment last week and were met with good and bad news…

The good news is that the embryo testing indicated that there was an unbalanced translocation on chromosome 1 again (ie it had an extra piece of chromosome 21 on it) which resulted in the miscarriage (if you’re wondering why that’s good news, it’s because no new problems were found, which means we feel a little more confident that this is what is causing the miscarriages… and we’re happy there isn’t a new problem).

The bad news… we’re just so freaking unlucky to have hit that chromosome combo 3 times in a row.

Our OB suggested we head to Kalgoorlie and play some two-up…

Which, was kind of funny, because Sam was actually about to head to Kalgoorlie, and I had been joking with a couple of people about wanting to just stand there and flip 2 coins over and over again for a while just to see exactly how hard it is to get one particular combo 3 times in a row.

So… it’s back to square 1 for us again now.

We had the “should we do IVF” conversation again and decided we’ll just try our luck for a bit longer…

I am conscious of my age (31 and counting already, yikes!) and I was a bit worried about the aging of my eggs.

I asked my OB whether it would be worth freezing some just in case we decide do to IVF down the track (my thought was that I wanted them to be as “young” as possible in that scenario in order to avoid other future potential problems associated with aging eggs), but we were basically advised that the cost of retrieval and freezing is about the same as IVF, so probably best to just do IVF if we’re thinking along those lines.

I did wonder “but what if I get to 38 or so and decide then than I want to do IVF and realise I could have had my younger, healthier eggs in holding all along…” to which my OB just gave me a reality check saying he didn’t think I would be likely to go that long without making the decision to go down the IVF path… fair call I say!

So, I guess we will just wait and see what happens.

Fortunately for us, the “getting pregnant” part of things seems to happen fairly quickly, so I’m hopeful we might have some luck in the near future.

Until then I’ll be semi-hoping for a pregnancy and semi-not-hoping for one all at the same time, as I know what it’s like to go through the happy/sad/anxious/stressed/whatwasithinking cycle associated with recurrent miscarriage over and over again.

But, I guess you win some you lose some. If you don’t try, you can’t succeed, right? So, I’ll just try to hold on to that little mantra for now.

Until next time…

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